Relationships can be tricky. One moment they are going great, and the next you are breaking up. It’s even worse when you had no idea that the two of you were on the verge of splitting. However, a breakup doesn’t have to break you as a person. In fact, it can actually empower you.
– LOVE YOURSELF FIRST –
If you were the person just broken up with, then you are most likely anxious about two things. The first is that you feel so hurt you are wondering if you will ever be able to be happy again. The second thing is the fear that nobody else will ever love you. Okay, here’s the truth: the hurt feeling and anxiety are both very real. However, these are mostly mental conditions you are creating in your own mind.
While the love you get from a romantic relationship is different than the kind you get from friends and family, it can really help to ease the pain of a breakup if you remember that there are other people in the world that care for you. And most importantly, the love you have for yourself. If spirituality is important to you, then you can also tap into that for more love. Granted, this will not magically eliminate the pain you are feeling, but it is a way to help you get things back under control and help you to move on.
The next step is to reconnect or spend more time with those same people. Not only will you feel the good vibes that their feelings for you bring, but chances are that they too have gone through a breakup at some point in their lives. With any luck, they will share stories of their breakups, and how they were able to go on with their lives. There can be great comfort in knowing that you are not alone.
Still, being dumped sucks. There’s no way around it, but that doesn’t mean you have to let it ruin your life, either. In fact, you can turn the tables by using all of your new free time to focus on improving your life and turning the focus back on You. Being involved in a relationship takes a lot of time and commitment. Even if it was near-perfect, you still had to consider the wants and needs of your partner. But not anymore. Now is the time to do all of those things you wanted, it’s time to care of number one, and it’s time to do what you want without worrying about somebody else.
Spending time with yourself is a great start, and should help you to start feeling empowered to do what you want to do. Self-love is a major key to healing a broken heart. Reconnect with yourself by journaling, meditating, exercising, or doing something simple as taking a bubble bath. Focusing your attention back on yourself will not only make you feel good about yourself, but it will take your mind off of the other person. Pamper yourself as you would want someone to pamper you. You will soon realize that your main priority is not the relationship that once made you happy, but it’s You. You are the main priority and being happy has nothing to do with the other person. It is all you.
